Blessingway Ideas

Ever been so pregnant you just. Can’t. Stop. Crying? Me too. It was such a day as this that brought about plans for my Blessingway.

At 39 weeks pregnant I found I really needed some moral support and while my friends had offered to organise a baby shower for me it for some reason just didn’t feel right. My doula (doula post to come) had mentioned a Blessingway to me during our first meet. I had shrugged it off as a slightly too ‘out there’ for me, but when I found myself needing some woman to woman support it popped back up as an idea. After a short internet nosey (and a whole day of emotional just-because-I’m-pregnant crying), I had some ideas of how to customise my own Blessingway.


Blessingway Invite

I love the idea of a circle of women strengthening each other. I kept the invite to my closest friends and family only. This was my way of reaching out for help. With only 1 official week of pregnancy left it was last minute notice but my friends and family came through, putting off other things and squishing it between appointments so that they could offer their support. They brought beautiful written poems and prayers for me, beads to thread on a necklace and food to share. It was the most spiritually restorative afternoon I have ever had. Thank God for good friends. We shared our birth stories and food and it lifted me up so much.

Here’s my essential tick list for organising your Blessingway:

  1. Keep it to close friends and family only and don’t feel bad about it!
  2. Customize it to suit yourself. Mine had a Christian focus, my friends gave me scriptures to encourage me. This is what worked for me, do whatever works for you.
  3. Keep it really relaxed. Hosting can be stressful, which is the last thing you need when you’re pregnant. Either keep it really informal or maybe ask a friend to organise/host it for you.
  4. Don’t be afraid to open up to your friends; it’s the only way they can really support you (see 1st bullet point)
  5. Remember that the point of a Blessingway is female peer support. If you want to celebrate the baby too, consider doing a separate baby shower, or a get together once baby has arrived.
  6. Email out a short memo of what a Blessingway is in case your guests have never been to one. Like this one:


There’s loads of ideas out there about what to include in a Blessingway as they are becoming increasingly popular, here’s a few I particularly liked…

  1. Ask your guests to bring a written piece about birth or parenthood. They can be referred to whenever you need a pick-me-up and it’s so nice seeing the different handwriting.
  2. Each bring a bead and thread a necklace with them. Each person says what the bead represents (e.g. strength, motherhood, patience) this can be worn or hung up in the house to remind you of your circle of support.
  3. String game – throw a ball of wool to each other in a haphazard pattern to create a sort of web across the room. This is to symbolise how our lives all cross and inter weave. Wrap the wool 3 times around each person’s wrist and cut and tie into a bracelet. This can be cut when the baby is born. This is another nice physical reminder of your support network.
  4. Sharing birth stories.
  5. Henna or a massage for mum-to-be or belly casting.

String Game

Have fun!


  1. Kim Ellwood-Jones
    24th May 2016 / 10:16 pm

    I have to say I thought this was an amazing and touching experience and I’d recommend it to anyone. Proud to have been part of it. X

    • 24th May 2016 / 10:34 pm

      I will definitely be recommending it to all pregnant friends from now on. 🙂

  2. Richard Davies
    25th May 2016 / 6:17 am

    More inspiring information for mums to be! Well done babes! X x

  3. 25th May 2016 / 11:22 am

    What a neat idea. I will share this with people I know who could use encouragement and support.

      • 25th May 2016 / 9:16 pm

        Yes having six kids I know that is right. 🙂

      • 27th May 2016 / 8:22 am

        What an amazing experience. I think whether you take the Christian focus or the spiritual one I’m sure this was something beautiful to be part of. I love that there are alternatives to the “standard” pregnancy and birth journeys. Thanks for sharing

  4. randommusings29
    31st May 2016 / 12:05 am

    I’ve never heard of a Blessingway, but I love the idea of it after reading this. The necklace sounds particularly good, what a great way to bring back memories of your support group and their words of encouragement.
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂

    • 31st May 2016 / 6:26 am

      Yes I still have it hanging up. It’s very precious to me. Thanks Debbie. 🙂

  5. 8th June 2016 / 7:42 am

    I’ve never heard of one of these – it’s lovely to celebrate you and ensure you are well supported. Sometimes this gets lost in a baby shower. I like the idea of beads, poems and sharing stories. Good luck when that baby comes!! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst

    • 8th June 2016 / 7:53 am

      Thanks Sarah that baby is 14weeks old now and we’re loving having a new squish in the house 🙂 thanks for hosting #bestandworst

  6. 8th June 2016 / 8:42 pm

    I must admit I did think that a blessing way would not be my thing but after reading “what is a blessingway” I think it sounds really positive and peaceful. I was very very uncomfortable and fed up at the end of my pregnancies to the point where I was becoming very depressed and I had something like this could have really helped my state of mind. I actually think this sounds better than a baby shower as I think there should be more focus on the mum at this stage


    • 8th June 2016 / 9:13 pm

      Thanks Janine. I did not think it would be my thing either but I loved it. 🙂 #bestandworst

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