If you had a time machine what would be the first thing you would do? A knee jerk answer might be “win the lottery!” but if you really think about it, I bet the answer has something to do with relationships.
I really like zombie films, and anything post-apocalyptic based. Some of my favourites are The Walking Dead, Hunger Games, Legend and 28 Days Later. The premise fascinates me. In these films there is usually a small group of people on a search for other people. Part of it is to pool their resources but mainly they just need to find other people because, when you think about it, life is all about relationships.
I was walking along a path beside a large field the other day and there was no-one else for miles around and I thought ‘Oh it’s like one of those films’. I thought how nice and quiet it was and yet if it was the apocalypse how much I would long to talk to another human being. No matter who they were, or how loud they chewed their food. We all know relationships are important .
We all love our families and children and endeavour to continually pay into those relationships. We have close friends, and acquaintances and now even people on Facebook who will walk straight past you in the street but like your status online (what’s that about?!) but I got to thinking about how *all* of life is about relationships. Even the little polite conversations we have daily with complete strangers. Our personal relationships make families and friendships, this on a wider scale creates community which makes up society, and many societies make up the big wide world. Our every relationship is important.
I’m not saying we should be happy and smiley every day of the week or that every friendship should be perfect, that’s the very beauty of it. Some friendships will withstand distance, some will not, some are intense and need a lot of regular input, some function perfectly well intermittently. When I think of all my relationships they are all so different and it’s just because they’re with different people. The different mixes of personalities and traits define the dynamic of each one. My best friend lives 328 miles away (I just checked Wales – Newcastle!) she moved there when we were 10 and even though we may not speak for weeks on end I still feel a very deep connection with her.
Relationships also change over time, they ebb and flow. Like tearing muscles to build them back up stronger we have disagreements that teach us how to be with one another once we have been through it. I saw a post that said in Japan when a vase is broken it gets repaired with gold so that the more broken it gets the more beautiful and unique it becomes. I think God made relationships invisible on purpose so that no record is kept.
We are all always so busy and on to the next thing. It’s the kind of age we’re living in. The more I think about it though the more I want to take a leaf out of the older generation’s book and slow down to appreciate the interactions in my everyday. Wave at the toddler, speak to the cashier, listen to my daughter in the car. I think life is all about relationships because if I was the only person on earth life would be pretty rubbish!
In one of my favourite films -About Time- the main character can time travel and the most important thing he wants to do in all the world is spend time with his dad. What would you do? Is there someone who you would like to travel to, to spend more time with?