Phillip Schofield came out as gay this week. I applaud him for his courage, and I thought his official press release statement was lovely. But I do wonder how a person can go for so long in life and not know they are gay?
I mean, you go through puberty, you begin to have sexual feelings toward people, you know if you fancy men or women or both don’t you? I recall it being quite clear when I went through those changes and new thoughts. Quite clear (if you catch my drift, and I’m sure you do).
Schofe’s come out as gay after being married to his wife for 27 years. The statement he made really sounded as if it was a realisation that had just dawned on him. Like ‘ohhh I wasn’t hungry I just like willies’. ‘It’s bums I really fancy, not McDonalds’.
I don’t think that’s possible. Surely he’s always known he was sexually attracted to men he just didn’t feel safe to come out or didn’t want to admit it? I would bet he’s been secretly watching gay porn for a while.
Coming at this bizarre scenario from my own world view my first thought is, we’ve got enough to worry about! As wives we worry about everything. All the time. Was his drive to work O.K.? Is his health O.K? Is Chardonnay from accounting flirting with him again? Is he having a stressful month at work? Have I been a grumpy cow all week? We really do not need to add in ‘Is he fucking gay?’.
We do not need to spend 27 years of our lives (especially the part when we’re at our hottest) dedicating every breath to you only to be told it was one big farce. A cover story marriage because you were scared of what people might think of you. And to top it off maybe you’ve been eyeing up our brothers over the Christmas dinner table since 1992.
It’s obviously a very complex and emotive issue. And I think unfortunately after years of people campaigning for equal human rights we’re only really just entering the age of acceptance. Even then it’s almost as if people are being dragged kicking and screaming. I’ll never understand the hatred people display to others who are not like them, it’s plain deplorable. But I also don’t understand how you can suddenly realise you’re gay (and to be clear, I think coming to terms with and understanding that your trans-gender is a different experience).
Is it a given that he’s always known and just hidden it? It’s not an uncommon occurrence either. Perhaps Schofe’s of the generation where there would have been a huge backlash if he’d said he was gay. I remember watching him in the broom cupboard back in the day and I wouldn’t have given a fig if he was gay, but I can only speak for myself. Perhaps he had concerns his family wouldn’t be supportive.
Nobody but Schofe himself knows the full story and we as objective observers into these celebs lives can only guess.
I hope that we are now in an era where the next generation won’t feel they need to lie to themselves and others about who they really are. About who they want to fuck and who they want to marry becasue it doesn’t matter as long as everyone involved is being treated well and with respect.
Hopefully through people like Schofe sharing his personal life in this way we can avoid another generation of broken hearts on all sides.
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