I have this group of friends, and we kind of bonded over Wagamama. We’re four busy mums and we get together once every couple of months for a night out and a good old chin wag. And we always go to Wagamama. The food is quick, healthy, and tasty and we all have our favourites on the menu. We even have the Wagamama brand photo as our group What’s app picture. So I was thrilled when Wagamama gave me a voucher to take our little Wagamama Mama club (try saying that after a few g & t’s) on tour to see the cool new refurb at their Cardiff library restaurant. Trust me when I say, we don’t just discuss noodles.

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Refurbished Cardiff Library Wagamama

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Open kitchen

Mum Friends

We know each other from church, we’re all mums and we have a good laugh together. Our meet-ups have become a bit of a lifeline to me in fact and a highlight in my calendar. A safe space where no topic is off limits and when we have no advice or experience to share, we just listen to one another, and that is enough. There’s something special in that and I have come to really respect each one of these three special friends. They really are each amazing women in their own right and we’ve all been through our ups and downs this past year. I don’t see all of them from week to week but that just means we always have a lot of news to share. And share we do, over a nice hot bowl of ramen and fresh greens and green tea to help it all go down.

Nothing ever leaves the table. What is said in Wagamama’s stays in Wagamama’s. And we laugh a lot too. I really have a laugh with these girls, like a proper scream. Our meets are a real pick me up for me and I always feel uplifted when I get home. Without anything ever being said aloud, the Wagamama club dates have been protected in our house. Once they’re in the diary they are not messed with and I think Rich realised before me how important these catch-ups are for me. Just to get out of the house child free and let off some steam with friends who understand you is vital.

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Wagamama restaurant

Allergies in Mind

We began meeting up for our consecutive birthdays in May, June, July and August, that was our summer meet ups sorted and we carried on from there. I fell in love with Wagamama because their allergy information on their website is brilliant which helped me loads when my baby was diagnosed with a cow’s milk protein allergy. I found I had more choice of the menu at Wagamama than anywhere else. I know they’ve really upped the ante with their vegan menu for 2018 too. Moreover, the food is always really fresh. It’s prepared right when you order and brought to the table as soon as it’s ready (no wilted greens from sitting under a heat lamp-winner) and there is masses of it. We all have our favourites on the menu now we’ve been going so much. The desserts are absolutely lush too and not things you get elsewhere, like banana katsu (lightly breaded deep fried banana with salted caramel ice cream-yum). The service at Cardiff was brilliant, leaving us to get on with our chin wagging without having to bat an eye about the food and just enjoy our time out.

I noticed a little sign that said Wagamama would donate 25p to mental health charity Mind for every positive drink bought (a fruit smoothie with spinach and pineapple, it’s so lush) which I thought was great.

Wagamama dessertWagamama menu

Wagamama’s watchword is kaizen which is a Japanese word meaning ‘good change’. Each of us has definitely been through a lot of change in the last year that’s for sure. A lot of good and a fair dollop of sad change too but no matter what has been going on we still get together to tell, laugh, and listen, and I’m really grateful for our little Wagamama mama group.

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With thanks to Wagamama for giving me a voucher for their Cardiff library restaurant. 

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If you had a time machine what would be the first thing you would do? A knee jerk answer might be “win the lottery!” but if you really think about it, I bet the answer has something to do with relationships.

I really like zombie films, and anything post-apocalyptic based. Some of my favourites are The Walking Dead, Hunger Games, Legend and 28 Days Later. The premise fascinates me. In these films there is usually a small group of people on a search for other people. Part of it is to pool their resources but mainly they just need to find other people because, when you think about it, life is all about relationships.

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Friends

I was walking along a path beside a large field the other day and there was no-one else for miles around and I thought ‘Oh it’s like one of those films’. I thought how nice and quiet it was and yet if it was the apocalypse how much I would long to talk to another human being. No matter who they were, or how loud they chewed their food. We all know relationships are important .

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Family

We all love our families and children and endeavour to continually pay into those relationships. We have close friends, and acquaintances and now even people on Facebook who will walk straight past you in the street but like your status online (what’s that about?!) but I got to thinking about how *all* of life is about relationships. Even the little polite conversations we have daily with complete strangers. Our personal relationships make families and friendships, this on a wider scale creates community which makes up society, and many societies make up the big wide world. Our every relationship is important.

I’m not saying we should be happy and smiley every day of the week or that every friendship should be perfect, that’s the very beauty of it. Some friendships will withstand distance, some will not, some are intense and need a lot of regular input, some function perfectly well intermittently. When I think of all my relationships they are all so different and it’s just because they’re with different people. The different mixes of personalities and traits define the dynamic of each one. My best friend lives 328 miles away (I just checked Wales – Newcastle!) she moved there when we were 10 and even though we may not speak for weeks on end I still feel a very deep connection with her.

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Me and my BFF

Relationships also change over time, they ebb and flow. Like tearing muscles to build them back up stronger we have disagreements that teach us how to be with one another once we have been through it. I saw a post that said in Japan when a vase is broken it gets repaired with gold so that the more broken it gets the more beautiful and unique it becomes. I think God made relationships invisible on purpose so that no record is kept.

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The art of Kintsugi

We are all always so busy and on to the next thing. It’s the kind of age we’re living in. The more I think about it though the more I want to take a leaf out of the older generation’s book and slow down to appreciate the interactions in my everyday. Wave at the toddler, speak to the cashier, listen to my daughter in the car. I think life is all about relationships because if I was the only person on earth life would be pretty rubbish!

In one of my favourite films -About Time- the main character can time travel and the most important thing he wants to do in all the world is spend time with his dad. What would you do? Is there someone who you would like to travel to, to spend more time with?

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